Tuesday, October 11, 2011
Analysis of Public Speaking - Anxiety and Proposals
What are the main obstacles to happiness in the western world? I have not done a detailed analysis, but I think the different forms of anxiety are very high on the list, because of concerns about the future, a career or family and direct forms of fear. Therefore, if we increase happiness, how can we reduce the anxiety levels of people? Examine the causes of the anxiety of public speaking, one by one:
First Believe that public speaking is stressful
This is a self-fulfilling prophecy: we believe that public speaking is stressful, so it becomes very stressful. It is important to understand that our minds and play with us. Public speaking is stressful in itself. When you were a child, do not hesitate to talk to others. Only later in life is what the development of this fear, and as adults, we believe it is an integral part of public speaking. Also, keep in mind that many people have managed their fear of public speaking, so you may as well. Always remember (repeat after me): public speaking is inherently stressful.
2nd Fearing Fear
This is unfortunate, reinforcing effect is triggered, we believe that public speaking is stressful: one begins to fear but fear itself, causing the cycle of fear, which leads to high levels of anxiety. What can we do to make this vicious circle? Here are some suggestions:
Remember that public speaking is inherently stressful (see 1).
Do not fight the fear
The third pressure on yourself to success
Where the pressure on ourselves increases levels of anxiety, why do we do? It seems that there are three main reasons:
3.1. Thinking "It's all about me"
To put it succinctly: No, it's not for you. This is the value of contributing to the audience, primarily by teaching the audience something they did not know before. Instead of focusing on ourselves, focus on the public and especially the message you want to meet. This is what the public cares about - not you.
3.2. Do you think you have to be perfect or a brilliant success
You do not have to be perfect or fantastic to be successful. Your task is simply to add something of value to the audience. If you can give some of the key messages that are interesting and / or new to the audience, you have succeeded. Why get the idea from your head that you must be perfect to succeed. Perfectionism will make you crazy. The belief that one has to be perfect can occur in several ways:
a) Do you think you can not make mistakes
b) Do you have the audience you want to give every detail of
c) the belief that everyone in the audience must approve
3.3. Think you're the only one with this problem
I think you're the only person with the anxiety of public speaking may reinforce the problem. They may mistakenly believe that if everyone else is successful, you're the last person stupid still struggling to overcome the problem. Of course, this is not true. The fear of public speaking is often identified as the greatest fear of people, so do not think that you are unique - they certainly are not.
4. Not auto-
As a result of pressure on yourself, try to imitate other people you consider to be a success (or your vague and abstract idea of ??how a public speaker performs well and feels) that aims to be someone you are not.
Further increases in levels of anxiety
Is it an inauthentic, discomfort
Distracts from the message you want to convey, and
It is identified by the public at about 100% of the time
So be yourself and tell the public, of course, you have to say. Thank you for your listeners.
5. Too much preparation and in the wrong direction
This is a touchy subject. Preparation is good, right?
In my experience, the preparation is very important as it helps to add value (for example, allows you to communicate information clearly and help you identify any abnormalities in your message). The best way to prepare might be to practice your presentation on your own, while imagining the audience in front of you (the video itself can be a good idea), or to practice your presentation to some friends who will provide feedback.
6. Lack of Purpose / no value to contribute / Nothing to say
Unless you're a politician, you will always feel comfortable if you do not have a message. Without a message, over hundreds of eyes that are keen knowledge actually be an unpleasant situation. Therefore, make sure you have a good, well thought out messages to convey, and you'll be fine.
7. Do not believe that something bad will happen
Sometimes our imagination and creativity can do us harm. When you think about speaking in public, many exaggerated and unreal thoughts come to mind. What if I move out of exhaustion? What if I forget what I meant and I'm still alone, completely silent?
The question is: how can we avoid going crazy?
Remember that your fears are completely exaggerated.
Use of this way of thinking, "everything that happens to my advantage."
Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers an interesting set of techniques learned to change perceptions.
8. Belief that the public does not want that to be successful
Our relationship with the public is another key point. As you consider your audience that your enemy (which is almost never justified), you would put undue pressure on yourself. In reality, your audience wants you to succeed and provide the information that interests them. A slip or error of any kind may seem a big deal for you, but it is not so important to the public. Your listeners are simply interested in learning something new.
There are several ways to acquire the practice:
Looking for opportunities to speak in public
Start slowly, if necessary, but start!
Dealing directly with symptoms of Public Speaking Anxiety
Described above, to try to address the causes of the problem, which is essential for long-term solution. However, we can also treat the symptoms in the short term.5 Most of these techniques is to help you feel calmer and more relaxed:
Learn relaxation techniques / deep breathing
To training before the event
To spend a relaxing food / beverage
There are other things that will help you relax
First Public speaking is not inherently stressful.
2. Do not fear fear. Do not fight it.
3. Do not put pressure on you to succeed:
- It's not you.
- You do not have to be perfect, or a brilliant success.
- You're not the only one with this problem.
4th Be yourself.
5. Do not over-prepare or prepare too much detail, but the train, if possible.
6. Make sure you have a message to share. Focus on the audience and the message itself during the presentation.
7. Do not believe anything bad will happen.
8. I do not think the public does not want you to succeed.
9. Get practice to see for themselves that the above is true.
A final thought: This post was written in an effort to reduce feelings of discomfort (for example, reducing the "bad luck"), but it could have been written to exploit a new source of happiness, many speakers said direction, while others feel relaxed and engaged is a great feeling I will never forget. The rewards of overcoming fear of public speaking are very, very high!