Showing posts with label Anxiety. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Anxiety. Show all posts

Sunday, October 16, 2011

Anxiety About Public Speaking - Public Speaking Training




Do you have a difference of belonging to one of the biggest clubs in the world? Registration is millions. From the street corners of classrooms, pulpits, the presidential office and then, the fear of the International Public Speaking Club members represent all professions and walks of life, living in 245 countries, and "community", talking about 6500 languages ??and span the world. Fear of public speaking is universal, but it is estimated that on average each day, says 2000 words, so that, with few exceptions, we are all knit speaker.



Why then speak publicly about this problem?



It is not. Your self-doubt is the problem.



But if public speaking is not the problem, why we have created these questions?



Because you speak in public honors, you singles, you put on a pedestal, and is an unusual situation where everyone is focused on you - but it is still not the problem.



In the formation of public speaking players in our Broadway actor-educators often asked this question of people's experience of anxiety about public speaking: "When you imagine giving a speech, what are your thoughts?"



Here are some answers:



Why would anyone want to hear what I have to say?



Who am I to stand before a group of people and tell them something about something?



I'm not qualified to speak on this subject. I am not an expert.



I feel like an impostor. I introduce myself as something I did not.



I pulled the wool over everyone's eyes. I made them think I'm amazing.



Wait until you see what they really are.



I will be exposed.



Everyone will know that I am uninteresting.



Everyone will see that I have no personality.



Everyone will notice that I have nothing important to say.



All these comments express their feelings of inadequacy and lack of confidence. This is a problem that must be addressed if you have to overcome anxiety about public speaking.



Begin by saying: "Is not it strange that everyone feels like me? Not everything can be insufficient." Exactly!



Then, addressing his own doubts.



Ask yourself the same question to our actor-educators would be: "When I imagine a speech are my thoughts?"



Listen to the answer of your mind gives you. If no immediate response a hot drink or distract you in another way, take a walk, go see a movie and then I'll ask again. Continue until you receive a clear answer. And accept the answer, oddly enough.



I will choose one example: "I'm not worth that much."



Realize this is absurd. You are not worthless, but makes the mistake of thinking that you are.



Why on earth would be useless, or in any way can the simple act of getting up in front of people and made some of the sights?



As a human being, you have all the powers necessary to be naturally good public speaker. You shall not want. You are complete. You are excellent. You are worthy, and what you have to say is interesting.



This is the way to reason with you compare each of their own doubts. If you do it with seriousness and consistency, which will be a success.



Finally, it removes negative thoughts about yourself from your thoughts on public speaking. This is going to die of hunger and reduce your fear of public speaking. Turn as you would for a child and say, "These thoughts have nothing to do with reality. These thoughts have nothing to do with my abilities as a speaker. These thoughts are unhealthy, ridiculous and get in the way that I do something I was born to do it well. I'm crazy to feel so inadequate. I have to convince me out of this madness. "This kind of dialogue will be funny when you know how it can be useful.



His oratory is not the problem. His doubts about themselves, so when you work in reducing the anxiety of public speaking that's where your focus should be.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

Analysis of Public Speaking - Anxiety and Proposals




What are the main obstacles to happiness in the western world? I have not done a detailed analysis, but I think the different forms of anxiety are very high on the list, because of concerns about the future, a career or family and direct forms of fear. Therefore, if we increase happiness, how can we reduce the anxiety levels of people? Examine the causes of the anxiety of public speaking, one by one:



First Believe that public speaking is stressful



This is a self-fulfilling prophecy: we believe that public speaking is stressful, so it becomes very stressful. It is important to understand that our minds and play with us. Public speaking is stressful in itself. When you were a child, do not hesitate to talk to others. Only later in life is what the development of this fear, and as adults, we believe it is an integral part of public speaking. Also, keep in mind that many people have managed their fear of public speaking, so you may as well. Always remember (repeat after me): public speaking is inherently stressful.



2nd Fearing Fear



This is unfortunate, reinforcing effect is triggered, we believe that public speaking is stressful: one begins to fear but fear itself, causing the cycle of fear, which leads to high levels of anxiety. What can we do to make this vicious circle? Here are some suggestions:



Remember that public speaking is inherently stressful (see 1).



Do not fight the fear



The third pressure on yourself to success



Where the pressure on ourselves increases levels of anxiety, why do we do? It seems that there are three main reasons:



3.1. Thinking "It's all about me"



To put it succinctly: No, it's not for you. This is the value of contributing to the audience, primarily by teaching the audience something they did not know before. Instead of focusing on ourselves, focus on the public and especially the message you want to meet. This is what the public cares about - not you.



3.2. Do you think you have to be perfect or a brilliant success



You do not have to be perfect or fantastic to be successful. Your task is simply to add something of value to the audience. If you can give some of the key messages that are interesting and / or new to the audience, you have succeeded. Why get the idea from your head that you must be perfect to succeed. Perfectionism will make you crazy. The belief that one has to be perfect can occur in several ways:



a) Do you think you can not make mistakes



b) Do you have the audience you want to give every detail of



c) the belief that everyone in the audience must approve



3.3. Think you're the only one with this problem



I think you're the only person with the anxiety of public speaking may reinforce the problem. They may mistakenly believe that if everyone else is successful, you're the last person stupid still struggling to overcome the problem. Of course, this is not true. The fear of public speaking is often identified as the greatest fear of people, so do not think that you are unique - they certainly are not.



4. Not auto-



As a result of pressure on yourself, try to imitate other people you consider to be a success (or your vague and abstract idea of ??how a public speaker performs well and feels) that aims to be someone you are not.



Unfortunately, this:



Further increases in levels of anxiety



Is it an inauthentic, discomfort



Distracts from the message you want to convey, and



It is identified by the public at about 100% of the time



So be yourself and tell the public, of course, you have to say. Thank you for your listeners.



5. Too much preparation and in the wrong direction



This is a touchy subject. Preparation is good, right?



In my experience, the preparation is very important as it helps to add value (for example, allows you to communicate information clearly and help you identify any abnormalities in your message). The best way to prepare might be to practice your presentation on your own, while imagining the audience in front of you (the video itself can be a good idea), or to practice your presentation to some friends who will provide feedback.



6. Lack of Purpose / no value to contribute / Nothing to say



Unless you're a politician, you will always feel comfortable if you do not have a message. Without a message, over hundreds of eyes that are keen knowledge actually be an unpleasant situation. Therefore, make sure you have a good, well thought out messages to convey, and you'll be fine.



7. Do not believe that something bad will happen



Sometimes our imagination and creativity can do us harm. When you think about speaking in public, many exaggerated and unreal thoughts come to mind. What if I move out of exhaustion? What if I forget what I meant and I'm still alone, completely silent?



The question is: how can we avoid going crazy?



Remember that your fears are completely exaggerated.



Use of this way of thinking, "everything that happens to my advantage."



NLP exercises



Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers an interesting set of techniques learned to change perceptions.



8. Belief that the public does not want that to be successful



Our relationship with the public is another key point. As you consider your audience that your enemy (which is almost never justified), you would put undue pressure on yourself. In reality, your audience wants you to succeed and provide the information that interests them. A slip or error of any kind may seem a big deal for you, but it is not so important to the public. Your listeners are simply interested in learning something new.



There are several ways to acquire the practice:



Join Toastmasters



Looking for opportunities to speak in public



Start slowly, if necessary, but start!



Dealing directly with symptoms of Public Speaking Anxiety



Described above, to try to address the causes of the problem, which is essential for long-term solution. However, we can also treat the symptoms in the short term.5 Most of these techniques is to help you feel calmer and more relaxed:



Learn relaxation techniques / deep breathing



To training before the event



Avoid caffeine



To spend a relaxing food / beverage



There are other things that will help you relax



Take key



First Public speaking is not inherently stressful.



2. Do not fear fear. Do not fight it.



3. Do not put pressure on you to succeed:



- It's not you.



- You do not have to be perfect, or a brilliant success.



- You're not the only one with this problem.



4th Be yourself.



5. Do not over-prepare or prepare too much detail, but the train, if possible.



6. Make sure you have a message to share. Focus on the audience and the message itself during the presentation.



7. Do not believe anything bad will happen.



8. I do not think the public does not want you to succeed.



9. Get practice to see for themselves that the above is true.



A final thought: This post was written in an effort to reduce feelings of discomfort (for example, reducing the "bad luck"), but it could have been written to exploit a new source of happiness, many speakers said direction, while others feel relaxed and engaged is a great feeling I will never forget. The rewards of overcoming fear of public speaking are very, very high!

Sunday, October 9, 2011

Speech Anxiety And Fear Of Public Speaking Cure




What I am going to teach you here is the fact that there is a physical reason for our feeling frightened when put into a position to speak in public. That reason is our body's perception that speaking in front of others is a "threatening situation" that demands the over-creation of adrenalin. And it is the over-creation of adrenalin that gives us our symptoms of feeling frightened.

Here's the Good News on managing speech anxiety - I can tell you exactly how to control the over-creation of adrenalin within 15 minutes of you having to stand up to give a speech. I am going to inform you of a doctor-prescribed, safe, inexpensive and non-addictive pill (medication) that will eliminate your symptoms of fear almost instantaneously. Therefore, I can show you how to speak in public without the symptoms of feeling frightened. And if you can "speak in public without the symptoms of feeling frightened " guess what - YOU CAN SPEAK IN PUBLIC"! Since the pill is a doctor-prescribed medication, not an over-the-counter medication, you will have an opportunity to discuss it with your doctor to confirm that it is safe for you to take. But I can assure you - it is perfectly safe for the vast majority of us. This may sound too easy, but believe me once you learn the physical reason for your speech anxiety or stage fright , you will be able to speak in public better than you've ever thought possible.

Let me also say this up-front - The information I present here will help those with a moderate to serious fear of speaking in public, as well as give "an edge" to those who do not really fear public speaking, but just want to improve their performance . Those that have used this information successfully have included many in business who must routinely give presentations , show business folks who want to be able to deliver the best performance possible and those who just join an organization and must participate in large meetings once in a while. The symptoms of fear that I will explain how to control are identical to all of us. The only thing that separates us in terms of public speaking is the severity of those symptoms and how we're able to control them.

One more thing - you do not have to take the medication I will recommend here forever. It is only necessary during the period of time that you are re-training your brain to understand that speaking in public is not a threatening situation and therefore it doesn't have to create an over-abundance of adrenaline in order to survive THEREFORE, THE MEDICATION IS REALLY A "TRAINING AID", NOT A "CRUTCH".

Speaking in public is the No. 1 fear of Americans. It surpasses our fear of losing our jobs, losing our relationships and, believe it or not, people write in surveys they fear public speaking even more than death (although I suspect that given a true life and death situation, they could muster the courage to give a little speech).

Because speaking in public opens the opportunity for us to be judged by others in a very personal way more so than any other activity we do in life. And it is this fear of being judged that creates anxiety that can be paralyzing at times. Simply put, many of us have a fear of looking foolish, of being laughed at, of making a mistake, of being vulnerable.

That was exactly my problem. For many years my fear of speaking in public kept me from advancement in my company because even though I was very competent in my field (in fact, more competent than many of my peers), I was perceived as not being as competent as those that could speak more authoritatively than I. It got so bad I had difficulty participating effectively in large meetings where I was an expert in the discussion area. I had to do something or my career, and my life for that matter, was going to be mediocre, at best and, at worst, a dismal failure.

My background was research and so I began to investigate the causes of my inordinate fear to speak in public.

Simply put - what I found changed my life forever and it will change yours too.

BackGround

When it comes to public speaking, there are several categories of people:

About 5% of the population do not fear speaking in public at all and actually look forward to it in many cases.

Another 10% are apprehensive to speak in public, but do not have a real fear of it.

However, the vast majority of us (about 80%) have a mild to serious fear of speaking in public; we don't do it unless we have to and we tend to minimize the opportunities to speak in public if at all possible;

Then there are about 5% of us that have an excessive and almost debilitating fear of speaking in public.

I should admit to you now that I have a serious, and at times, excessive fear of public speaking

and am therefore in the "gray" zone between the 80% and 5% categories. Therefore, I know from

experience what I am going to teach you will help the vast majority of everyone who has a fear of standing up and speaking in public. In addition, this information will also help those who do not really fear public speaking, but just want to give a better performance.

Where Does Our Fear Come From?

This, of course, is a hard question to answer. For many of us the cause of a moderate to serious fear of speaking in public cannot be associated with anything in particular in our childhood. However for others, it can be traced back to a particular incident that has triggered the symptoms felt when faced with the necessity to speak in public. Some of us can vividly remember a particular incident in our lives where we became very self-conscious and embarrassed for some reason in front of a crowd of people. Often this incident occurred as far back as elementary school when our self-worth and self esteem were just beginning to develop and may not relate to actually speaking in public at all.

For instance, if we were in a situation where we stood embarrassed in front of our schoolmates without saying a word,--- that could be it. Even though we were not speaking in public, our brains perceived our fear just standing there in front of other people as we thought that we looked foolish and/or scared. In a nutshell - what happens to some of us during this type of incident is our brain links our intense negative feelings with merely standing in front of other people as they look at us. It almost sounds silly that deep fears that control us as adults often have such trivial moments of creation in childhood. Often they last only a minute, but it is a minute that can last a lifetime. I'm sure the people who initiated these terrible incidents in our lives so many years ago never think back to them or to us for that matter. They have no idea what they said or did during that incident had such a profound and lasting effect on us.

Our fears may only be "in our head" but that's enough to make us react as we do to speaking in public and other anxiety-prone situations. I'm sure you already realize - it's pretty difficult to change what's "in our head" even if we can figure out why it's "in our head" to begin with and why we react as we do to perceived "threatening situations" such as speaking in public.

Luckily for us, understanding the true source of our fear doesn't really matter. For some reason our brains have created a connection/link between standing up in front of people and speaking with a "threatening situation" of intense vulnerability.

And let me say this now - our fears are completely independent of our intelligence. In fact, I believe those with higher IQ's may actually be more susceptible to fears brought about by childhood events than those of lower intelligence.

Realistically, a deep-seeded fear may not be "curable" (in the clinical sense of the word). This is because it is a result of our genetic makeup and our external & internal conditioning which is a result of one or more of those incidents I mentioned that created our feelings of anxiety in the first place. But, as I'll explain in a moment - you do not have to cure your fear; you need only to cure the symptoms of that fear in order to be able to function without fear.

GOOD NEWS & BAD NEWS

First, the Bad News!

For those of us with a serious fear of speaking in public our minds create what I'll call a "malfunction" of our natural defense system. It is our natural defense system that identifies a "threatening situation" that may confront us and creates the "fight or flight" response in our bodies. For us, when put into a position to speak in public our body's natural "fight or flight" response initiates the over-creation of adrenaline because we perceive speaking in public as a very serious "threatening situation."

Therefore, the bad news in this discussion is the fact that our minds cause our bodies to create exorbitant amounts of adrenaline completely out of our control. And it is adrenaline that creates all of the symptoms that make us look and feel frightened.

This understanding that it is the over-creation of adrenaline that creates my symptoms exactly at the time when I must speak in public was the key to finding a cure to my speech anxiety. And I promise you - it is the key for you as well.

It doesn't matter why we react as we do to speaking in public and it doesn't matter if we remember a particular incident that triggered our anxiety or not. Since our fear is not based on an actual threat to us, we need only eliminate the symptoms of that fear to gain back our self-confidence and function as if we don't have fear. Intellectually, we know there is nothing really to fear when we speak in public, but our bodies act as if there is and it's completely out of our control.

Without the symptoms of fear we can speak in public in a more thoughtful and relaxed manner than we ever thought possible. And if we can speak in public in a relaxed manner, guess what - WE CAN SPEAK IN PUBLIC!! PERIOD Really, it's just that simple.

Now, the Really Good News!

The symptoms of fear of speaking in public are curable specifically at the time you're put in a position to speak in public by taking a doctor-prescribed, safe, inexpensive and non-addictive medication. As I will explain, this medication allows us to control the cause of our symptoms exactly at the time when they are getting out of control. Therefore, what I am going to teach you will help those of us who have to routinely give presentations for our careers, those who need to only give several speeches a lifetime for wedding toasts, funerals, and the like, as well as those in show business who must be relaxed and confident enough to focus on their performance.

Here's why -

As I mentioned, it is adrenaline that creates our symptoms of fear and anxiety completely out of our control. But what if you could control the adrenaline your body creates- then you would be in control!! That is what my research discovered and that is what I can show you how to do - control the adrenaline your body creates by taking a safe, inexpensive and non-addictive medication. And once I show you, you can do it anytime you want, on demand - just 15 minutes before a speaking engagement or performance.

Do I Have to Take the Medication Forever?

No you don't and here's why - Taking the medication during public speaking engagements over a period of time, allows the brain to re-think how it feels about speaking in public. With the medication, each public speaking event will increase your confidence as you realize you don't look or feel frightened. Your brain will eventually understand that public speaking is not the threatening situation that it has assumed. The medication can make it much easier to transition through the period of fearing to speak in public and being confident to speak in public. Because of this, the medication should not be considered a "crutch", but rather a "training aid" that will allow you to re-train your brain to understand that speaking in public does not require an overabundance of adrenaline in order to survive.